Comments on: The Post I Hoped I’d Never Have to Write https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/ Lover of color, manager of chaos, thrifter of all the things. Sun, 02 Feb 2020 20:57:33 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 By: Charlotte Smith https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-80466 Sun, 02 Feb 2020 20:57:33 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-80466 In reply to Meg frischholz.

Hi Meg! I read this from my phone right when you left it an was slow to get onto the laptop to approve/ post. THANK YOU! It’s been a wonderful helpful exercise in what is truly important, what we can make sense of and how we can choose to be positive or not about all this. It’s also been a great lesson in risk taking, etc. etc. We’re so fortunate in that the people who bought our home are wonderful and have bene able to bring her into spit spot shape faster than we could of so once the initial grief wore off, it’s all good. Again, thank you!! xx

]]> By: Meg frischholz https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-79863 Thu, 30 Jan 2020 02:40:48 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-79863 Hi chaRLotte… SCROLLING aimlessly thru ig and somehow i landed On the pIc of your Beautiful old home. Had to read More… i too lived in a lOvely historic home for 37 years!!! We got married there even… and raised our 4 kids, blood sweat and tears… every improvement uncoVered more projects to be tackled. So i naturally Just got Intrigued with your journey. Our situation was a bit different as we had acquired my husband’s family farm in 2004 about the same time my third son at age 18 developed schizophrenia. We struggled with owning And maintaining two properties, both homes built mid 1800’s so hahaha both money pits! All while maintaining jobs, elderly parents, Other children and just life. So in 2015 we sold the big beautiful greek revival ((the house everyone in our town knew)). My adult kids struggled with our choice, it is still a sore/sad subjEct ? and because I was the one doing all the work by myself due to husbands job it was a lonely and crushing time for me but i had to do it, the two houses were killing us and the neghbors would never have allowed us to air bnb the home or be creative with itin any waY. It sold quickly and i was relieved to be ouT from under the constant pressure of it, especially with life circumstances, realities of what hand is dealt you! In the 5 years since we sold other folks we knew also sold their family homes and It is hard for adult kids. Younger children are more resilient and as much as im sure you are still grieving the loss of that charming and stunning home i have to say your kids are fortunate to have parents that are realistic! I applaud you for thaT. But i also completely identify with you as a fellow old home curator! The new owners dont really get it, they have their pool furniture from their old development home all over the gorgeous front porch and it is just hard to drive by. I hate to sound like a snob and im careful to not Dis them locally as it is a small town and its their home now. Lol
But living in a place that is just so architecturally gOrgeous just doesn’t happen for most people. Lots of time i didnt appreciate it and it was a ton of work always! But it did become my identity and tbh although i love the farm for what is is, a place to be calm and just chill and take the renovation more slowly as frankly we were a bit pooped! I now look forward to reading/supporting your content as someone who does understand/empathize with Your “adulting is damn hard”.
And yes i know these are just homes and i always say people before thIngs ? but there is life, memories, comfort, love, learning, grIef, laughter And joy in tjese places that give us shelter… sorry this is so long but gosh i feel that you are a kindred spirit and i just wanted to give you credit! ?

]]> By: Charlotte Smith https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-45747 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 03:00:55 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-45747 In reply to Candy walsh.

Awwww… thanks, Candy! So sweet!! We’re a month into our rental home and unpacked. Working towards feeling settled! xx

]]> By: Candy walsh https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-45435 Sat, 16 Feb 2019 13:56:00 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-45435 I know this post is old, but i just read it and couldnt not respond. I hope that by now your life and family are settled someplace perfect for ya’ll
For reasons out of our control, we had To do the same thing almost 8 years ago. We had built our dream home that had everything we had ever wanted. We worked hard to make it happen after being hit by hurricane katrina. I still carry so much sadness and yes, bitterness as well.
We totally had to relocate to a state id never even been to and its been one of the hardest things ive ever had to deal with. The sad thing is that we had to seriously downsize, but the silver lining is that both of my grown kids Came here as well and i now have two amazing grandsons. Sometimes id give anythIng to go back home but i try to focus on the positive.
I hope youve found peace with your new home and are doing weLl

]]> By: Charlotte Smith https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-27215 Wed, 05 Sep 2018 03:20:33 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-27215 In reply to Linda Severson.

That’s very true! Thankfully my husband didn’t deal with his boss on the day to day but after the way all of this was handled, you’re totally right. He’s glad to be done with them.

]]> By: Charlotte Smith https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-27214 Wed, 05 Sep 2018 03:19:37 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-27214 In reply to Linda Severson.

Oh my gosh, Linda- that’s awful! I’m so impressed by your attitude and will be thinking of you guys. That’s a lot for one person to handle… hang in there! xx

]]> By: Linda Severson https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-27155 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 02:47:03 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-27155 In reply to Laura Mattern.

I am sorry, LauRa. Can relate.

]]> By: Linda Severson https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-27154 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 02:46:15 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-27154 In reply to Linda Severson.

Learning….clearly i cant type. My sister has lewy body dementia so i am thankful to be out of a job that was stressing me. Out. Arghh….i hope your husband An get to that point. It is noT worth it, working for bad people!

]]> By: Linda Severson https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-27153 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 02:43:52 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-27153 We have had similar yet dIffErent suMmers. After 28 yrs on the job i was terminated. For no good reason. So i can relate to adulting and what you are going thru. My sister, age 66, was placed in a nursing home this summer, my mom is in one, and my father in law has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. I worked in healthcare since aGe 26, so 30 yrs. there are blessings and curses in life’s exper and i am lear to embrace this change god has given me. God bless you & your family!

]]> By: Charlotte Smith https://atcharlotteshouse.com/the-post-i-hoped-id-never-have-to-write/#comment-26237 Thu, 16 Aug 2018 02:22:33 +0000 https://atcharlotteshouse.com/?p=35721#comment-26237 In reply to Laura Mattern.

Aw, Laura… that’s really hard. Thanks for leaving a comment. I’ll be thinking of you on Monday! xx

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